Jodi Underhill's Blog (10)

Ever thought of a little different twist on "Father's Day"? Perhaps one that encourages the men we celebrate to honor the title "Father"? So many children Sunday will be thinking of a person who not only isn't there....but doesn't take the time to be involved in their lives. While there are those who beat the odds, (President Obama)...most kids, both boys and girls suffer the impact of an absentee father throughout their lives. Is it the genes that make a father or can man grow into a "Dad"? Fa… Continue

Why are such horrible personal errors bring committed in today's society? Jobs are hard to find and you may need to relocate. Divorce is still available. In fact in most states it is easier and less expensive than ever before. Child custody in most cases is split evenly, so called "shared parenting". While the economy might be a convenient place to foster the blame and the media certainly does that all day every day for many of society's ills. Isn't that way too simplistic? Are job losses and mo… Continue

Saturday, May 9, 2009 "I am done with her" a Mom said as she began our session with she and her daughter the other day. I asked what she meant and she basically let both of us know she didn't want to be her daughter's mother any longer. I told her she really didn't have than option as her daughter is only 13 and she looked at me like I had two heads. Where has the idea come from that young mothers have a choice once they have had given birth to their children and not placed them for adoption,… Continue

"But I just can't make a decision" I heard someone say the other morning. Do they really think they aren't making a choice? Not deciding on something is making a choice to stay where you are. Others may feel these people aren't choosing at all . But it can actually give the fence rider great power in a situation or cause others around them much frustration. Friends and love ones may feel these non deciders are stuck...what they may not get is the person is wanting to keep the status quo..there a… Continue

Posted the question on Twitter this am....are people who live in small towns more resistant to on-line counseling? I received a reply from a Facebook friend stating that he felt that perhaps those who live in small towns needed less counseling. When I thought about it I couldn't help but wonder maybe they are just more afraid of on-line or any other kinds of counseling? Growing up and living currently in a small town I am all too aware of how many folks view counseling, therapy and any type of… Continue

I recently blogged about longer lives on my blog page....take a look. http://junderhilltherapy.blogspot.com Jodi Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified k-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com Continue

It is a popular saying that life is what happens while you are making other plans. It is the daily, by the minute way that we spend our lives. While the financial economy is tight right now....your daily personal account isfull. How do you spend it....your emotional capital? Do you spend your precious time with those you care about, on your work or worrying aboutthe future, feeling guilty about the past and avoiding the intimacy you really crave? We all make choices...some turn out well, others… Continue

A news reporter on a local station in Central Florida last evening reported that Americans are buying more alcohol than in previous times. In addition she reported they are buying the cheaper types of beer and wine, as opposed to the pricier brands. Of course being a counselor I immediately thought oh my....with the times as tough as they are more folks are self medicating by drinking and if they are buying the cheaper types, they can buy more....therefore consuming more? Sure enough, the repor… Continue

Is your plate is too full? Is it running over? What would be the worst that could happen if you let something slide off. You have been strong enough to endure the load you have carried...so you can survive the "worst" if it comes. You know you can do it... let something go. Jodi H. Underhill, MEd., LMHC Continue

Habits are hard to break....this is not a new idea. Everyday we rely on habits to do everything from our morning routine when start our day to how we drive home from work. These are habits that give us security and peace as we go about our daily lives. There are habits in the way we treat others or allow them to treat us which are not beneficial to us during our time on this earth. Since we never know when that time with others in our lives may be over...each day is a new opportunity to change… Continue